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I've Been Bullied

Wed, 2016-12-28 07:46 -- Carole Soule
Four legged bulls are not my problem

I was bullied, not by a four legged beast, but by the two legged kind. Yes, we have bulls on the farm but most of our bulls are well behaved and polite, not so much the human bully.

One definition of bullying is, “..unwanted, aggressive behavior among school aged children that involves a real or perceived power imbalance.”

Until it happened to me, I thought that bullying was reserved to the school yard. I think this is a better definition:

“...a blustering, quarrelsome, overbearing person who habitually badgers and intimidates smaller or weaker people.”

The problem with bullying is that at first I really didn't understand what was happening. My first reaction was that I had done something wrong. Then after the tears stopped I wanted to reason with the bully person. Yes, tears. Bullies know how to push buttons to get a reaction. I'd say they are skilled at attacking.

Maybe the worst part is that bullies know how to get others to side with them. This particular bully, who is also a farmer, convinced others who maybe wanted to be convinced, to join his bullying campaign.

Just as children need help with bullies, so do adults. I discovered that when bullied the best defense is to reach out for advice. Thank goodness for the organization called the NH Farm Bureau. Mostly made up of other farmers, this organization understands that farmers need to work together to make farming great again. Farm Bureau members helped me put this attack in it's place.

Have you ever been bullied? How did you deal with it? This is new to me so please share your feelings and advice. Funny thing is that as a farmer, I do know how to deal with the four legged bullies. It's not long before they are hamburger on my plate!

 

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